Perception and our reflection


Your perception of me is a reflection of you”
I saw this quote long ago and saved it in my phone. Since then, have been pondering on what it means and really, crying. It makes me think of my life and of many people that I’ve encountered at this stage of my life.
I went further to search more about it and I saw another quote, “Your perception of me is a reflection of you; and my reaction to you is an awareness of me”. In my understanding of it, the statement is missing some things. So I asked myself this question ARE PEOPLE’S PERCEPTION OF US A TRUE REFLECTION OF THEIR OWNSELVES?
How will perception be a reflection of self?
Some people are unaware how their reactions are based on their perception. Many are not aware of their shadows. Reaction is not necessarily an awareness of self. But in most cases, our reaction to another is the revealing of self perception.
People might have judged you badly or harshly. You might have been called unpleasant names but you know few of those things have ever been true. People look at you with their eyes for insult. They scan, looking at every aspect of you, not to praise or encourage you, but to find things to hate and degrade. They seek only to tear you down. For me, it took longer for me to learn not to judge people harshly and speak I’ll of them than it did for me to learn how to react to them. More accurately, how not to react to them.
And that quote… “it’s a reflection of you”, all of the stuff that you do not like about other people are stuff that you did not like about yourself. Every time you get into an argument with someone, and you see that person being mean to you or saying hurtful things, they are releasing things that are inside of them. Some even take pleasure in hurting others ,making them feel less about themselves. It means they don’t love themselves enough. They are just looking for something to call out in others so that for some moment, they can gain a false sense of superiority.
I sometimes have to remind myself how much it hurts, how the names and judgement sting like hot needles in the heart. How those people wiggle deep into your mind, scratching, ripping and injuring self-esteem. It’s evil. It’s like giving someone an incurable disease just by opening my mouth.
I had to teach myself that just because someone else says it, doesn’t make it true. I just had to know that it’s just their opinion and it doesn’t matter. I can be what others think I am or can be myself. When I grasped onto that, I learned to let the insults slide off my back. Sometimes I feel sad because they must be broken inside to feel the need to hurt others.
Be aware of your words. Sometimes, what you say matters. Respect the growth of others and do not engage in name calling or yelling. Don’t look for the worst in others. Look for the best and find something good to say about someone. Do you have any concept of how positively it can change someone’s day to receive a compliment or encouragement? Do you realize how negative insults affect them? Think about how these words will make you feel if you’re in their shoes. Stop trying to be less of who you are. Let this time in your life cut you open and drain all the things that are holding you back. Choose your words wisely. What you say to others shows who you really are.


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